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Change The Story Of Your Inner Critic

Susanna Zito — Mon, 01 Jul 2019 04:53:26 +0000

“What the mind frequently dwells upon, that becomes the inclination of the mind” – Buddha

As you age, what type of person do you want to become?

Do you want to be critical, judgemental, nitpicking and negative?

Or, do you want to be light, warm, encouraging, fulfilled and happy?

How the mind talks to you can have an impact on who you might become and what you do with your life and aging.

Being aware of the way your mind talks helps choose behaviors that represent you better.

I feel confident that many of us have experience with the “inner critic”.

This is the part of your mind that judges you harshly, comments negatively about your choices and reprimands you when you “fail”.

It is like a running commentary of all the bad things you do.

Sadly, the inner critic – although it is trying to help by having you strive for perfection (so you can be loved and accepted) – is very negatively oriented, not very accurate and over the years can crumble your sense of worth, leaving you feeling unlovable and unworthy.

It is important to be aware of this because it can affect how you interact with the world and the people around you.

Feeling unworthy and unlovable may lead to poor self-care, to disengagement from life and potentially impact your aging in a very negative way.

In this TEDx Talk, Kari Romeo discussed the importance of the Inner Critic, and our responsibility to teach it a new story, as the path to defining who we are and the life we lead.

If you can relate to the experience of the inner critic, there are some things you can do to help you shift your relationship with it.

Firstly, become aware of the negative “background commentary” of your mind.

If this was a friend that followed you around all day, talking to you so harshly you would probably lose this friendship quickly.

Yet, we don’t seem to react to the ramblings of our minds.

Rather, we believe them without question and let them affect our lives.

So here is a radical idea… do not believe everything the inner critic says!

When the critic strikes – ask yourself:

Is this accurate? Is it helpful? Does this thought serve me?

Signs the inner critic could have taken over include the use of words like: always, never and should.

You always make mistakes…

You never do a good job…

You should have known this way was better…

These are all examples of inner critic’s unhelpful chatter, and something we undoubtedly find ourselves proclaiming regularly.

Instead, we should choose to give attention to commentary that is helpful and respond with kindness and humor, to what is pointless criticism.

Another way is visualizing the inner critic as a character.

I imagine mine as Yoda, the wise old Jedi from the movie Star Wars.

Only this version is not very wise but mostly mean.

By doing this, the critics’ words lose power, and I can chuckle at the fact Yoda gave me a hard time – again.

Sometimes I respond with a comment like “Thanks, fascinating as usual”.

But I don’t really mean it. He is always saying stuff like that and there’s nothing fascinating about it.

By doing this, just in the same way as we would with a person who is full of judgments and little knowledge, I can step back and not believe the harsh criticisms I am presented with.

The more you alter your response to these moments, the more you will build a way of relating to this internal chatter that is healthy.

Most importantly, the hold the inner critic has on your actions will be reduced.

So, if you want to age happily and be a positive presence to yourself and others, take note of your inner critic.

Ask yourself: Is this true? Is it helpful? Does it serve me?

Learn to respond to it with humor and know not to believe all it says.

Most importantly, remember the more you respond in this way, the freer you will be from the inner critic impacting your life and actions, allowing you to live your life as someone who is warm, supportive, fulfilled, happy, positive and light!

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Practicing Mindfulness Without Meditation

Susanna Zito — Fri, 14 Jun 2019 05:08:29 +0000

There has been a lot of talk about the practice of Mindfulness in recent times.

It seems to be the latest “fad” that’s replaced Yoga, Pilates, and Paleo diets.

While the understanding and practice of mindfulness might be socially trendy, there are significant benefits to embracing the practice into our daily routines, especially as we age.

The idea of meditation, however, is not something everyone wants to do.

So, is it possible to practice mindfulness, without the need for meditation?

First, we should address the most obvious question…

What is Mindfulness?

Mindfulness is our ability to be fully present, in the moment, aware of where we are and what we are doing.

Our minds are a complex thing, and so often can our thoughts deviate into negativity and fear of possible future outcomes or circumstances, that it takes us away from what is happening right now.

We’ve discussed in previous articles the impact of negative thoughts and how they can affect our daily lives.

By being an advocate for and actively practicing mindfulness through meditation, one can build up strong enough conscious thought to not allow negative and fearful thoughts to affect them.

Mindfulness benefits

The benefits of Mindfulness are numerous and significant.

Just by taking a little time out of your day to focus on yourself and your current state, consistent practice has shown to:

Reduce stress levels
Increase self-awareness
Help people respond effectively to challenging emotional, cognitive, and behavioral processes.
Increases creative functions within the brain
Helps to center the body’s rhythmic attributes
Lower blood pressure
Enhance one’s cognitive state

It also helps with anxiety, depression, Post Traumatic Stress Disorder (PTSD), Obsessive Compulsive Disorder (OCD), substance abuse, borderline personality disorder, and even chronic pain.

Really, the benefits are indisputable!

Mindfulness and meditation

For many people when they hear the word Mindfulness, they think Meditation.

If you’re interested in learning how to practice mindfulness through meditation, HERE is a great article that goes in-depth into the meditation practice.

But this isn’t for everyone. Sitting uncomfortably, preferably cross-legged, for an extended period, focusing on breathing, while trying to ignore everything else around you…

Definitely not everyone’s cup of tea.

Most people, especially those entering their golden years, want no part in it.

But Mindfulness is a process of awareness and focus, and meditation is just one way of learning to cultivate this state.

The act of meditation might be how a person may choose to practice mindfulness, among other activities to engage the mind-body connection, but, it’s not the only way.

Mindfulness without meditation

If you are curious about Mindfulness, yet you are reluctant or not interested in meditation, there is another way to get a taste of what Mindfulness might bring to you.

I like to encourage my clients who are not interested in meditation to engage in the following as an experiment:

For the next four days, set the alarm on your smartphone four times per day.

For example, it may be when you wake up, at morning tea, at afternoon tea, and before dinner.

When the alarm rings, use it as a reminder for one of the following (you may choose to focus on one of each for the whole day or one of these per each day; it’s entirely up to you):

Experiment 1: Pause, looking within, and ask yourself:

“What is here?”

“Can I be with it?”

“Can I let it be?”

This could be regarding thoughts, feelings, behaviors, sensations, sounds, or any experience that is grabbing you at that time.

Experiment 2: Pause and for 3 minutes (or 40 breaths):

Notice your breath.

What is it doing?

How does it feel?

Is it fast or slow?

Is it cold or warm?

Experiment 3: Pause and scan

For the next few moments, scan your whole body, starting from the tip of your head, to the tip of your toes.

Gently allow any part you notice to soften.

Notice the head, neck, shoulders, torso, arms, legs, feet, fingers and toes.

Experiment 4: Pause and notice

Notice the activity you are engaged in.

How does it affect your posture? Your breath? Your mind?

What sensations is it generating?

In just 4 days, you will start to become more alert to yourself, your feelings in the present time, and what’s happening around you.

While these are just some suggestions, you could, in fact, bring that curiosity of mind to many daily activities like brushing your teeth, or sipping on a cup of tea, walking to your office or when you are eating your lunch.

Is mindfulness for you?

I hope this was easy enough for anyone to try and experience.

Remember though, this is just an experiment.

I encourage you to take part in it for yourself, to see if the experiences it provides are in any way beneficial to you.

The exercises in this experiment are what we consider the informal practice of mindfulness, which is perfectly fine, especially if it’s your first time trying it.

Formal practice is what most people recommend, and you may eventually be motivated to try it by joining a local community class near you or online practice.

But if you are not convinced yet, try this experiment first and see how Mindfulness suits you.

Mindfulness is a muscle, and just like any other muscle in our body, the more you use it, the stronger it will become, and in time it may help in shifting away from unhealthy thoughts and habits.

Next Steps…

Are you going to try the experiment?

Give it a try and leave us a comment below with your thoughts, feelings or emotions that YOU experienced in the experiment.

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How To Move Past Thoughts Of Negativity

Brett Simmons — Tue, 28 May 2019 07:44:41 +0000

Do you often find yourself thinking about the worst possible outcomes in everyday situations?

Maybe tragedy has struck in the lives of someone you know and care for.

Thoughts Of Negativity.

The feelings, emotions, and decisions that can often result from these external forces can have a very real impact on how we think and what we perceive to be true.

Take for example, as horrible but very realistic as this example is if someone you love has been diagnosed or is suffering from cancer, or a disease, such as in our field of expertise, Alzheimer’s Disease or Dementia.

It can hard to experience as a witness.

The grief it generates, along-side the guilt, frustration, exhaustion and anger that may come through daily dealing with the symptoms of this disease.

With this first-hand experience, the “fear” of also having Dementia can occur.

One might question their own future.

What if it happens to me too? How likely might this occur? Am I at risk?

Fear By Association.

It’s amazing how by simply associating the thought of something that happened to someone else, it may, in turn, happen to us, can cause such stressful emotions to arise.

The fear and anxiety these questions bring up in us can be absolutely paralyzing.

But it doesn’t have to be.

Today, we discuss how we can better respond to these thoughts when in the moment.

First: The Bad News.

There is no permanent way of removing all worries from our minds.

Our mind is designed to predict danger to keep us out of harm’s way.

We are built to worry as a means of survival.

So, when your mind tells you that you may be at risk of Dementia, ironically, this is your mind trying to keep you safe by scaring you.

But, here’s is the good news.

A worrying thought is not a fact.

It’s a worry.

And worry is simply thoughts about a perceived threat.

“Perceived” meaning it is not necessarily a real threat, but we simply “see” is a threat.

You see, even though your mind is suggesting you may get Dementia one day, this is not a fact.

These worrying thoughts and feelings, however, are completely rational and normal.

However, if you choose to believe everything your mind tells you, you may act in ways that are not healthy for you.

Imagine how the thought “I am doomed” might impact your actions differently from “I am in control of my life”.

When a question like “What if Dementia happens to me?” or similar enters your mind, try the following:

Step 1:

Take a nice deep breath.

Pause and ground yourself back into the present moment.

Breathing slowly will help your brain switch from a flight and fight state (which is what leads to anxious feelings and thoughts) back to recognizing you are safe at this moment.

Right now, you are well. “This was just a worried thought”.

Step 2:

Take a few more long breaths, and with each out-breath, let go of any tension you notice.

Allow the muscles to relax and allow any tension to melt away.

This will also help the brain disengage from the flight and fight response and calm the mind from predicting all these tragic outcomes.

Notice thoughts and emotions as they are.

Simply events of the mind and body.

Step 3:

Ask yourself these two little questions and see what arises for you.

What is most important to me right now? and
How can I take care of myself at this moment?

This may help you connect to actions that matter to you (i.e. taking better care of your health).

Again, engaging your thinking brain with a profound question about values will move the brain from fight/flight to being more present and aware.

Know that feelings carry valuable information you can use to guide your actions. Use this awareness for your own good.

These simple steps will not stop the experience of anxiety from taking place but will allow you to attend to the feelings that arise with awareness.

This will reduce being trapped by the worries and then acting in unhelpful ways.

Engage in this practice whenever you feel the need to nurture and self-care any worry that is painful to you.

Attend to the anxiety with an attitude of care and compassion and be aware of the fact that feelings are temporary, and this moment too shall pass.

Most importantly, learn to recognize that anxious thoughts and feelings are not truth or a representation of reality, and use these challenging moments to connect to the healthy you that you want to be.

These suggestions are to help you handle better the anxiety when it strikes.

However, be aware that there is no quick fix and it may be uncomfortable and challenging at times.

If you would like to know more about what normal age-related cognitive decline looks like, and the things you can do to protect yourself from Dementia, have a read of some of the articles below from Prof. Dan J. Sherman, MD, as you will find them packed with information and useful hints.

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